What message is your bedroom sending?
Is it a place that invites open and intimate communication?
Is it conducive to rest and relaxation?
Believe it or not, how you and your partner decorate your bedroom does in fact influence the quality of your sex life. The ancient Chinese principle of Feng Shui, placing certain objects and structures in a harmonious fashion as well as implementing colors, compass directions, and natural elements like wood, minerals, fire, water and earth is thought to attract good energy and fortune. You can use the same principals to transform your bedroom into a romantic retreat – a “love shack”!
In order to preserve the bedroom as a sacred place for you and your partner, use it only for sleep and intimacy. Avoid distractions such as computers, work materials, exercise equipment, or television. According to a recent study, “If there’s no television in the bedroom, the frequency of sexual intercourse doubles.”¹ In addition, certain television programs are far more likely to lesson passion than others. Violent films apparently put a halt on sexual relations for half of all couples, while reality shows decrease passion for one-third. Bottom line: Take the TV out of the bedroom. If you can’t, at least stop watching violent shows or reality TV programs if you want to boost your libido/sexual intimacy.
Whether you are trying to attract a new relationship or lover or are trying to recharge your present relationship, the following tips will help create a romantic refuge, a “hot spot” for love. If you’re ready to spice it up a bit more, look into Feng Shui and personalize it even more.
Paint with sexual colors. Warm colors, such as brown, beiges, reds, apricots, and yellows, are best. Red, the color of love and passion, is best for sexual energy. Yellow is another recommended color, as it symbolizes communication.
Remove excess clutter from the bed. Remove lacy pillows, dolls, and stuffed animals. The bed should be comfortable, without too many accents or an overflow of pillows.
Nightstands. Place a red object on the female nightstand to increase eroticism in the female partner. For the male nightstand, place something made of copper, such as a jar of copper scraps or a copper sculpture. Copper represents the male essence and enhances eroticism. Or find objects that are stimulating and significant to both of you.
These meaningful changes will allow you and your partner an intimate, relaxing place that belongs only to you. When the message of the room is “leave your stress and anxiety outside” then your communication will be guided by love and understanding rather than frustration or resentments.
¹ Salomoni, Serenella. The New York Times, January 16, 2006. “Television in Bedroom Halves Your Sex Life.”