To get turned on, you need to turn off your brain. Give it a well-deserved break. Allow it to do just one thing at a time, not 20 things. Focus on the scene and your partner. Mindfulness meditation is a very useful way to train your brain to do this. Using this method, thoughts can enter your mind but go right through without without needing to be fixated on. Have your mind focus on something peaceful or loving while you are caressing your partner. Keep bringing your thoughts back to what is happening to you physically – how you like his touch, his cologne, what is turning you on at that moment. This may take some practice, but is definitely achievable!