According to a recent survey done by the British Health care company,Bupa Health Pulse, investigating 12 different countries, aging is a major concern for millions of people around the world (1). The country which was the most fearful regarding aging was China, with its top concern, “Who will take care of me?” France ranked as the lowest country concerned with aging with one third of respondents stating that “old” began after age 80. Interestingly, the study found that women, independent of country, tended to worry more about aging than did men.
In the United States, we are obviously also concerned about aging. Just last November, I turned 50 and it definitely struck a chord with me. As a baby boomer, which represents the fastest growing population in America today, I too, have attempted to combat the effects of time on my body. I’ve purchased plenty of supplements, vitamins and miracle potions. Fortunately, I have now found a clinically proven product line which works to help slow down the effects of aging.
Do I still need to grab my reading glasses and occasionally pull out some gray hairs? Yes, reading glasses are now found in every room of my home as well as around my neck during office hours. The gray hairs – well, I’ve learned to deal with them. Thanks to my wonderful hairdresser, we now just camouflage them with highlights!
Aging is, of course, a part of life. Yet how we view our own aging process can be quite revealing.
What are your thoughts about aging?
Many of the thoughts about aging were formed in childhood while watching our parents and grandparents as they aged. Some of us may have been fortunate enough to be exposed to very favorable role models – watching our grandparents enjoy each other’s company as well as the company of others, while savoring the fine things in life. Others of us may have seen a different aspect to aging, such as struggling with cranky, crotchety elders who shuffled their feet and showed impatience with all.
Images of Aging: Let’s explore some of your negative and positive beliefs about aging.
List 3 negative beliefs that you have about aging.
Now list 3 positive beliefs that you have about aging.
Turning Things Around!
Transformed Thinking = Transformed Aging
According to Dr. John Kildahl, co-author of Beyond Negative Thinking, having negative thoughts has an enormous impact on aging (2). “People who focus on loss and limitations will age sooner than those who stay in the moment and think positively. Such negative thinking zaps your strength, reduces enthusiasm, and turns life into misery.” Dr. Kildahl further states, “…healthy thinking means the person realizes that many significant life tasks have been accomplished and that they have reached the point where they are likely to be respected and admired as a mature adult…being recognized as someone whose opinions and actions are worthy of respect…”
Getting a New Attitude!
I wholeheartedly agree with Dr. Kildahl. It is within our control to eliminate these negative voices and replace them with positive affirmations. One of my favorite teachers of affirmations is Louise Hay. I have included a link to her website for daily affirmations for you to visit (3).
One of the most challenging affirmations from Louise Hay was the following. She recommended that every morning with rising and every night before going to sleep, to look straight in the mirror and say, “I love you!” Yes, I’m still working on this one, but it is getting easier! Know that over time, these positive statements will smoothly guide us through this journey of aging with life.
Let’s all age with grace!
Please share your thoughts about aging. What are your fears? How have you dealt with them?
I would love to hear from you!